Hugs are nice too


A few days ago, I saw one of my favorite coworkers, everyone loves him, he is kind and has a sweet smile.  Despite the ongoing restrictions I gave him a hug (we were both wearing masks) and my condolences.  I had heard his mother had passed away, she lived in another country, so he was not able to travel to her funeral.  She died two weeks before she was to move into the home he was building for her.  It was sudden.  I had heard the story from someone else.

He began, and told me the exact same story, I listened knowing all the words. He was grateful he had returned to his country last year and had been able to spend time with her then as this year’s circumstances made it impossible.  He had watched her funeral by phone…. he ended with her age lamenting she was too young to leave this world.

Often people say, “I don’t know what to say!” when faced with another’s loss.  I have learnt that silence has a deep beauty, that holding space with someone while they process their pain is truly what they need. Telling our stories to each other is part of making the unbearable real, part of the healing process.   Being heard, having the pain recognized is a gift we can give each other.  Hugs are really nice too.


About Angelnurse0513

I am a hospice nurse who has been writing spiritually inspired books for the past seven years. I have written a children's book called "Little Star" which is available in ebook format I am currently writing a novel on spiritual love and the afterlife and looking for a publisher. It is my deepest wish to help with the transition from this world to the next whether it be through my work in hospice or through my written words. Please feel free to contact me with any questions or concerns you have.
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1 Response to Hugs are nice too

  1. Yes! Hugs are the best. And being heard is so important. These days when I hear bad news, I can honestly say, “I’m so sorry.” Sorry that my friend is in pain.

    Glad you got to hug a favorite coworker, no matter the circumstance.

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